If you are a virgin male who is getting married, not only are you probably stressing about all the wedding details, but also about the sex act itself. Will I be able to perform? Will I make my partner happy? What are her expectations? What is mine?
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Globe Icon An icon of the world globe. Link Copied. The wedding night is often not as sweet as the glass of milk traditionally offered to the bridegroom. Ignorance and fear of the pressure to perform often lead to failure in the male, resulting in a cycle of failures which often culminates in erectile dysfunction.
Remember Me. The first time I saw his penis I was shocked — his erection was bigger than I had expected it to be The wedding was over, but the memory of music, candlelight and conversation lingered as I sat on the petal-strewn bed of our hotel room. I was a virgin at the time; we both were. We had decided to wait until we were married before we had sex. Being year-olds in love and madly attracted to each other, this was no easy feat. We had our reasons for waiting, but as the wedding date neared it became harder for us to hold back. Being Christians, we believed that sexual freedom should be expressed within the boundaries of marriage and we wanted our increased physical intimacy to be in line with our commitment to each other. I also saw my virginity as a gift I could give to my husband. In the weeks and days before our first night together I had so many questions: Would it be sore?
